Christ - The ReeseSource: June 2019

Saturday, June 1, 2019

MAY 2019 EDITION

On May 20, Peggy and I celebrated our 52^ndanniversary! We are so thankful to God for the wonderful journey on which He has led us. Our story is not a unique one but it is our story of God’s love, protection, provision and grace.

Peggy and I met in the early fall of 1966. We were both coming off broken relationships. I was absolutely captivated by this beautiful brunette who could play the guitar and sing folk songs like an angel! I had to see more of her! On our third date, I scared her to death by telling her I wanted to marry her! To my good fortune, we were married in the spring of 1967! At age 21 we started a family while I was working full time and going to night school at Georgia State and working at a restaurant on the weekends. Peggy had her hands full raising children. That left little time for the two of us to work on our relationship.

We both had our thoughts of how a spouse should be. I had the “Father Knows Best”, “Leave It to Beaver”, “I Love Lucy” understanding of how a wife should be. She had the same vision as to how a husband should be. Of course, neither one of us grew up in that “Utopian” environment! We both set about trying to make our spouse into that idyllic person we thought they should be.

After graduation I worked full time in the hospitality industry, first as a wholesale wine and liquor salesman for two different distributors, then as general manager of a popular restaurant which catered to affluent young singles and local sports celebrities. The hours in that business left little time for home life. What time I did have away from the restaurant I claimed as my time to relax. I was very self-centered, not a great father or husband. Peggy wanted me to attend church with her. There were many Saturday nights when I would get home after two a.m. I was hardly interested in getting up and going to church! All the while, Peggy was trying to “keep the home fires burning” rearing two small daughters and finding part-time work where she could.

We were basically living separate lives! As I tell it now, Peggy said she never considered divorce, murder yes, but never divorce!! She says she looked at the future and saw us as two elderly people sitting side-by-side, never speaking, just watching television. This thought prompted us to seek family counseling, learning much about communication. It was the start of a healing process in our marriage.

I mentioned earlier that our family situation growing up was not the “Father Knows Best” “Utopian” situation. Both of our homes growing up were dysfunctional. Peggy’s parents divorced when she was a teen and both our parents were alcoholics. At that time, in our circles, most of the parents we knew alcoholics. No one ever admitted this but referred to them as having a “drinking problem.” This was normative for us. When you live in an environment when things were mostly out of control, one seeks to try to control as much of the world as you could. Both Peggy and I brought this defense mechanism into our marriage. It has taken years of counseling and the beautiful grace of God to continue our growth.

Please hear me on this. Our marriage is not perfect by any stretch of the imagination. I still battle insecurity and fits of anger. We still have strong arguments or as I heard one Christian jokingly refer to them as “moments of intense fellowship”! Here is the deal now. Peggy and I cannot stand that relational separation for too long a time. One or the other of us will seek forgiveness and talk about our disagreements, which, annoyingly, are usually over extremely trivial things. We agree that what we held so strongly was, in fact, not really a “hill to die on.” Interestingly, those arguments eventually led us to a greater understanding of each other.

Now, in last month’s newsletter I described how I came to Christ. Peggy and her friends literally prayed me into a relationship with Christ. For the last 40 plus years since we cemented a relationship with Christ, our love for Christ has grown deeper and, as a result, our love for each other has grown so much deeper. I can honestly say that I love Peggy so much more than the day we were married. It is a richer, more tender, more respectful, and a more considerate love. I can only tell you what we have experienced in our marriage because of our making Christ the center of it. I would invite you to consider doing the same.

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Net Work Ministries, Inc. Purpose Statement

The purpose of Net Work Ministries is to bring hope and healing to men and their families by exposing them to the love of Jesus Christ in word and deed. Net Work also encourages men in living out their Christian faith in their day-to-day lives.

Net Work Ministries, Inc. is a pastoral counseling and resource networking ministry that brings God's people together for mutual support and enables them to use the abundant resources He provides. It is directed towards men, to bring them into a personal relationship with Jesus Christ and to help them use the power of this relationship to become the men God intended them to be. This ministry helps men deal with issues that affect their everyday lives. It is a faith ministry that depends entirely on the Lord for resources and does not charge for its services. It is a fully accredited 501c3 I.R.S. organization.

Net Work Ministries was begun 1991 by a group of men who knew Buck Reese's giftedness in the areas of pastoral counseling and resource networking. Buck, who is a native of Atlanta, has been in ministry since 1975 and is an ordained minister. He was responsible for starting the Young Life high school ministry in Cobb County in 1977 and served as Area Director for 12 years. Buck was the Director of Church Relations for Rapha, Inc., a Christian counseling program, as well as serving as a pastoral counseling intern at Wesley Woods Geriatric Center. For 20 years Buck served as chaplain and assistant coach of the Marietta High School football team. Buck was selected to be a member of the 1998 class of Leadership Cobb and the 1999 class of the Honorary Commanders, programs of the Cobb County Chamber of Commerce.

Buck's full-time commitment is to Net Work Ministries. He is in contact with men of all ages and walks of life. A typical routine would include: Having breakfast or lunch with a businessman to offer counsel and encouragement to strengthen their commitment to Christ and to enjoy each other's fellowship and support. In all these situations, Buck offers a listening ear and a caring heart and shares Scripture and wisdom given by the Holy Spirit. The goal in all of this activity is to bring those who do not know Christ into a saving relationship with Him. To those who are committed to Christ, but are dealing with issues of day-to-day living, he gives loving and effective counsel, encouragement and support.

Recently, I have added a new role to my ministry. I have accepted the role as volunteer Chaplain to the Staff of Young Life Southeast Region, which consists of the states of Georgia and Alabama. There are currently 50 local area ministries with staff. I will be the"minister to the ministers."

The Concept of Net Work Ministries

From Henri Nouwen’s book “Gracias”:

“It is a privilege to have the time to practice this simple ministry of presence. Still, it is not as simple as it seems. My own desire to be useful, to do something significant, or to be part of some impressive project is so strong that soon my time is taken up by meetings, conferences, study groups, and workshops that prevent me from walking the streets. It is difficult not to have plans, not to organize people around an urgent cause, and not to feel that you are working directly for social progress. But I wonder more and more if the first thing shouldn’t be to know people by name, to eat and drink with them, to listen to their stories and tell your own, and to let them know with words, handshakes, and hugs that you do not simply like them, but truly love them.

From "The Hole In Our Gospel" by Richard Stearns, President of World Vision:

It is rare that a simple recitation of the gospel will cause people to instantly change their minds. It usually takes much more than that. Our own narrative typically involves a journey of discovery marked by relationships with respected friends and loved ones, reading, discussions, learning about the basis for Christian faith, seeing the difference faith made in the lives of people we know, and witnessing genuine faith demonstrated through acts of love and kindness towards others.

I Stand At The Door - My Calling To Men's Ministry

I Stand at the Door

By Sam Shoemaker (from the Oxford Group)

I stand by the door.
I neither go to far in, nor stay to far out.
The door is the most important door in the world -
It is the door through which men walk when they find God.
There is no use my going way inside and staying there,
When so many are still outside and they, as much as I,
Crave to know where the door is.
And all that so many ever find
Is only the wall where the door ought to be.
They creep along the wall like blind men,
With outstretched, groping hands,
Feeling for a door, knowing there must be a door,
Yet they never find it.
So I stand by the door.

The most tremendous thing in the world
Is for men to find that door - the door to God.
The most important thing that any man can do
Is to take hold of one of those blind, groping hands
And put it on the latch - the latch that only clicks
And opens to the man's own touch.

Men die outside the door, as starving beggars die
On cold nights in cruel cities in the dead of winter.
Die for want of what is within their grasp.
They live on the other side of it - live because they have not found it.

Nothing else matters compared to helping them find it,
And open it, and walk in, and find Him.
So I stand by the door.

Go in great saints; go all the way in -
Go way down into the cavernous cellars,
And way up into the spacious attics.
It is a vast, roomy house, this house where God is.
Go into the deepest of hidden casements,
Of withdrawal, of silence, of sainthood.
Some must inhabit those inner rooms
And know the depths and heights of God,
And call outside to the rest of us how wonderful it is.
Sometimes I take a deeper look in.
Sometimes venture in a little farther,
But my place seems closer to the opening.
So I stand by the door.

There is another reason why I stand there.
Some people get part way in and become afraid
Lest God and the zeal of His house devour them;
For God is so very great and asks all of us.
And these people feel a cosmic claustrophobia
And want to get out. 'Let me out!' they cry.
And the people way inside only terrify them more.
Somebody must be by the door to tell them that they are spoiled.
For the old life, they have seen too much:
One taste of God and nothing but God will do any more.
Somebody must be watching for the frightened
Who seek to sneak out just where they came in,
To tell them how much better it is inside.
The people too far in do not see how near these are
To leaving - preoccupied with the wonder of it all.
Somebody must watch for those who have entered the door
But would like to run away. So for them too,
I stand by the door.

I admire the people who go way in.
But I wish they would not forget how it was
Before they got in. Then they would be able to help
The people who have not yet even found the door.
Or the people who want to run away again from God.
You can go in too deeply and stay in too long
And forget the people outside the door.
As for me, I shall take my old accustomed place,
Near enough to God to hear Him and know He is there,
But not so far from men as not to hear them,
And remember they are there too.

Where? Outside the door -
Thousands of them. Millions of them.
But - more important for me -
One of them, two of them, ten of them.
Whose hands I am intended to put on the latch.
So I shall stand by the door and wait
For those who seek it.

'I had rather be a door-keeper
So I stand by the door.

Net Work Ministries Testimonials

Quotes

“I have been involved in Net Work Ministries for almost six years. I am privileged to serve on the Board of Directors and work with Buck on a variety of projects i.e.: Young Life, Good Samaritan Health Clinic, P.A.C.E., working with the poor and indigent, and supporting the men who attend Buck’s groups.

Buck and Peggy have been there for my wife Rita and I through our most difficult times. They are always loving, always supportive. Buck and his ministry are a wonderful example of what it means to serve. It’s what the love of Christ encourages all of us to do for each other.”

Dwayne Lambing,
Regional Vice President
Nordco, Inc.

The Friday group began as an opportunity for me to have in depth conversation about subject matter that I was not totally comfortable with i.e. formal religion and my personal relationship with God. I believed intellectually that the universe was not an accidental explosion, but it demonstrated a purpose that only a Creator could know. I felt a part of that universe and was comfortable with my life and the roles I played in it. But I still asked myself, is that all there is to life.

Through a series of very diverse and interesting books it became increasingly apparent that no growth in self is possible without the "pains" of self examination. Sometimes this would occur during the course of "intense" discussions and other times would occur in moments of quiet reflection on these conversations. I began to notice that in this crucible of frank and honest discourse that I could find a voice for my beliefs and at the same time be intellectually true to my beliefs in science.

As it has turned out for me, the books have been less important than the comfort and strength that I find in the relationship of men willing to discuss matters that are not in their comfort zones , and that require an intellectual and emotional honesty that are not found alone on an island.
Thank you for your role in making all of this possible,

Dr. Peter Re’,

Neurologist